I’ve watched the viral “Harassment” video going around, where a woman is walking down the street and random men start talking to her, telling her she is beautiful.  I’ve also read some of the many articles and posts full of “expert” analysis on this video. I walked away thinking, “Why are so many people trying so hard to tell me what I should think and feel about this video?” I really don’t see a problem.  If you don’t think what she faced was harassment, I agree with you. If you don’t feel harassed when a man talks to you on the street, don’t allow someone else’s complex to become yours.

My news feed is blasted with article after article analyzing the video and explaining why “cat-calling” is a bad thing for women. Here’s my thought, if someone has to work to make me feel harassed AFTER the fact, the problem is theirs, not yours. The articles are written by people trying to sell women a “victim” label, and we don’t have to buy it.

When I saw the video, I thought, “Yep, this is the mating dance of humanity.” A man sees a woman whom he finds attractive, and he makes a move in the direction of connecting with that woman. Why wouldn’t he? That’s how we are designed to work. We all get together eventually. What is the problem?

Certainly don’t allow someone else to turn this into a melanin issue. Because that’s the other spin I see going around. The color-focused people took one look at that video and started counting the number of blacks and whites represented in it. Wasn’t it nice of the producers to add that part in at the end, writing that she experienced this “harassment” from people of “all backgrounds”? Of course, we didn’t see “all backgrounds” represented. So, they must have edited out all the white guys, right? What about the disabled men?

True story: I was walking down the street in NY when I heard a man’s voice yell out, “Girl you are so fine, please come over here and talk to me.” I smiled in the general direction but kept walking. That’s when I heard, “You aren’t gonna stop and talk to me? Ok… then, I’m going with you!” And I turned around to see a man with no legs pushing his wheel chair up the block to my location. He was grinning from ear to ear at me, and that made me smile too at the thought of him chasing me down the street in a wheel chair. He asked me if I had ever dated a man with no legs.  And then the conversation got dirty with him referencing his 3rd leg and all… so that was the end of the exchange. But the point is, flirting is a part of the mating dance. And someone out there, I’m sure, was attracted to his energy and he eventually met his *match*. I was not the one, so I walked away. But someone else found his energy irresistible and that is life.

So now, what is the takeaway from the “harassment” video? Are assertive women unable to handle assertive men? I have seen video of women in other countries where men physically assault women as they walk down the street. Women cover themselves for protection from men who cannot control their physical urges. But none of that happened in this video. The men in this video were just advertising themselves, offering a potential match to this woman. If you notice, she walked by many restaurants and stores that were also advertising their product to her. What of the restaurants who actually offer you food right there on the street so that you can sample their goods? I have rarely said “no” to that “harassment”. But now that I think about it… HOW DARE THEY! Don’t they know I’m on a diet?

This “harassment” video made me think of another video (equally as scandalous) on the mating dance of the birds of paradise. Check it out below. I particularly like the technique of the male bird at minute 1:32. But get your phone ready, because someone needs to tell the female bird of paradise that she is being “harassed” by that male bird! Let her know that she should feel victimized. Then quickly, call the ACLU!

You might also choose to notice that the male bird in this video has black feathers. You know what that means? Black feathers = black skin! Yep… the producers at BBC Planet Earth are racists! They must have edited out all of the male birds with white feathers…. and of course that bird in the wheelchair.

There’s a lot of talk around the 10 minute Mike Brown EyeWitness Crime Scene Video. The press is all over the background conversation that starts at minute 6:30 because of the witness’ report of Mr. Brown “turning back” and attacking the officer. Before you watch it again, I’d like you to consider something that many overlook.

At min. 6:30, the witness is sharing what he saw, while the listener expresses shock as it begins to register in his mind that the man was shot by a police officer. He (and a few others) are floored at this account. He is so stunned, that he asks for the information to be repeated several times. The shock continues for many minutes. It continues on into minute 8:50 where the listener begins to share his own thoughts after he heard the shots go off. 

The listener says that when he heard the shots go off, he thought it was a black person who was “dumpin’ [his gun out] on somebody”. He heard the gun going off from his more distant location, and made that assumption. He then carried that assumption as he walked out to the scene of the crime to investigate the happening. 

He sees the man laying in the street, and the people surrounding the police tape, yet nothing from the scene changes his original conclusion. In his mind, that man is laying dead in the street, because a black citizen killed him.

He then seeks out a witness, and asks for the details around what just happened. He listens to the entire account through the lens of his original assumption. Not until minute 6:55 does it click in his mind that the shooter was not a citizen, but a police officer. He is in complete disbelief for several minutes, asking several times to confirm that this new data is accurate. You can listen to his thoughts on the situation as he shares his original conclusion again with the witness. 

This section of the video should not be ignored. This section should not be dismissed. This section proves two very distinct “norms” that have been adopted by members of this community: 

#1 If you hear gun shots, it is probably a black citizen shooting another black citizen. 

#2 It is shockingly rare for a citizen to be shot by a police officer. 

We should remember these norms when we hear people using this case to sell the idea that the “police are out to kill black men”. Listen to the conversation on this video. The energy of *shock* enters because this shooting is outside of the norms of this community. This is a rare event.

Don’t lose hold of that truth. If it is found that this officer did something tragically wrong in this case, we must remember that this case represents an outlier. Repel the energy that would dare to change your mind on what you know is sound truth. Our society empowers police to serve and protect the citizens. If officers are acting outside of that power, then we remove those officers from their service. We don’t suddenly declare something that is normally “rare”, as “common”. It is not common for police to shoot and kill citizens.

If we can be honest with this, maybe we’ll move to a place where we can stop accepting something that *has* become common in our communities. Maybe we will be ready to change our feelings around Norm #1.

About the article, about the movie Lucy (in theaters now) — SPOILER ALERT!

Rebuke the message in this article. You don’t have to live in the world this woman is perpetuating. She is playing to the fleshly desire to see racism where it does not exist.

Remember, you always see what you are looking to see. And if someone can see it, that means they have it in their heart to see it. And the white-guilt filled, liberal, author of the above article is a prime example of that statement being true.

Read the article… I’ll wait….

Now, there’s so much to attack about the writing in this article, that I don’t even know where to begin. Can we please see the story for what it is? Lucy is not the most evolved human in the movie as the author suggests. She was a drug mule that went on an accidental drug trip, and then died!

In fact, ALL of the white characters in the first half of the film are portrayed as drug addicted, helpless idiots. If you remember, each of the mules are white. Her white room mate was a dolt. Even the white dude on the airplane who witnessed Lucy disappearing was the stereo-typical fat, balding, impotent, business-class white male. But those images are completely ok with this author, because they are white people. The author only cares about people of color and how we might feel about Lucy and her “enlightened blue eyes”. Though I remember Lucy’s eyes turning reptilian green at the point where her mind opened, but accuracy is never necessary when trying to invoke a feeling. MORE… the most BRILLIANT, unDrugged, unaltered mind in the movie was a black man (Morgan Freeman) who was sought out by Lucy for his help. You see, even though Lucy was becoming more “advanced”, she still needed the man (or “black man”, for the color-focused) to explain it all to her. In addition, she needed an Arab man-of-color to help her “remember what its like to be human”. (Maybe the feminist should really be angry.)

But all that is cast aside by this author because some people are blinded by Lucy’s blond hair, and they can’t get passed their own limitations around how they ACHE to see racism in everything.

Can we just watch a movie for the message? Can we just see it for what it is, entertainment? No… we have to count the black people… count the women… count the gays… make sure everyone is represented fairly. We have to look at things with our simple, little minds, based on colors and groups. (There were no little people represented! CALL THE ACLU!)

This white author is being shared over and over on FB as “a hero”,  a “deep thinker”, an “ally”. When she is nothing of the sort! Don’t hold her up the way she says Hollywood holds up other white women. She is not the deepest thinker among us. She can’t even see that SHE IS THE VERY LUCY SHE HATES. But this article has been shared on my news feed by MANY black people. And of course, black people will continue to share this article, because we are trained in that color-focused world to always celebrate white people who are on “our side”.

I say reject the whole thing. Reject that world. Don’t let someone MAKE you see racism in this film, when there is no racism.

Remember, there are people who are still trying to keep your mind enslaved in a racially controlled world where they still have all of the power. That’s the world of the 10%. Don’t go back there! Let that world die! When you see a blond woman in a movie… choose to see a HUMAN in a movie! Who cares the intentions of the messenger, when you have power over your own mind to take what you WANT from the message.

(Say that again!)

When you have power over your own mind, you can take whatever message you want from a movie, no matter the original intention of the messenger. Now, that is FREEDOM.

In this way, you will never be a victim, but always victorious. You won’t have to walk in “protection mode” from the evil powers-that-be, because you will be flourishing in a world full of unlimited potential focused only on possibilities, not stifled by trying to control the motives of others. This is the world available through the use of more of your brain! This is a message from the real science behind the movie. And this is the opportunity you can easily lose just by allowing someone with the old, label-focused thinking to bring you back into their world. Choose to transcend that thinking. (God can show you the code!)

When you think of the movie Lucy, forget the skin color of the actors, choose instead to focus on Morgan Freeman and the words his character shared throughout the film. Open your mind to the possibilities for all of HUMANITY; for all of God’s creation.

Open your mind to an existence beyond your melanin!

Because we can use more than just 10% of our brains.